Ever since therapy speak has become mainstream, people have been increasingly using specific terms to define specific relationships. One such term is trauma bonding, which is a strong, unhealthy emotional attachment that develops between an abused person and their abuser.
“We’re going to talk about what a real, actual trauma bond looks like and figure out if maybe you’re in one. I will tell you what it feels like, and then we’ll go through a little checklist together,” he stated.
“So, if you want to get down to like the emotional experience of it all, a trauma bond feels like you desperately want to be in the relationship even though you can’t really explain why. And the pain and intensity that you’re probably mistaking for love is kind of what’s holding it all together.”
Jeffrey shared the following questions to help one figure out if they are in a trauma-bonded relationship, noting that if they are, they are likely to answer “yes” to all of them.
“If it turns out you’re in a trauma bond, I want you to be really compassionate with yourself,” shared Jeff. “Trauma bonds will f**k you up in the head and make you act in ways that are just like not in alignment with who you really are. It can feel absolutely crazy-making.”
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Jeff Guenther is a licensed professional counsellor based in Portland, Oregon. He has a master's degree in marriage and family therapy from the University of Southern California and a bachelor's degree in child and family development from San Diego State University.
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