What if happiness has less to do with the choices you make and more with how you experience them? Sadhguru offers a thought-provoking perspective on marriage, divorce, career and even choosing not to marry. Speaking about the larger questions people often struggle with, the Indian guru argued that these decisions are not necessarily the biggest issues in life. According to him, the real problem begins when people turn ordinary life experiences into sources of misery. Hence, his advice: If you know how not to make misery out of everything, then whatever you are doing is right .Sadhguru on the real problem with life choicesDuring a discussion, a participant asked Sadhguru about major decisions such as whom to marry, which job to choose and whether to marry at all. Sadhguru challenged the idea that these are necessarily “large issues”, describing them instead as “little things in your life”. He acknowledged that such choices can have significant consequences, but pointed out that people have been making similar decisions for generations. His larger message was that the decision itself does not automatically determine whether an experience will be good or bad.‘Every experience’ can be enrichingSadhguru explained that whatever job a person takes or whoever they marry, “it is just the way we make out of it.” According to him, every experience in life can become enriching, but people can also turn the same experience into a source of suffering. This means the circumstances alone are not necessarily the problem. The way a person approaches and experiences those circumstances can make a major difference.Whether someone gets a particular job or loses it, Sadhguru suggested there is “nothing wrong” with either situation. The same principle, he said, applies to relationships and marriage.Marriage, divorce or being single: Sadhguru's lessonSadhguru extended this idea to some of life's most personal decisions. Getting married is not inherently wrong. Not getting married is not wrong either. Divorce, he argued, is also not automatically something that makes a person's life unsuccessful or unhappy. The central issue, in his view, is what people do with these experiences.He repeatedly returned to the idea that, If you know how not to make misery out of everything that you do, whatever you are doing is the right thing. Whether someone marries, divorces or remains single, the situation itself does not have to become a source of constant suffering.The happiness habit: stop turning everything into miseryFor Sadhguru, the more important question is not whether someone has made the perfect decision. Instead, it is how to avoid making misery out of every situation. He suggested that if a person learns how to move through life joyfully, they can experience different circumstances without allowing each one to become a source of distress. His message is ultimately about changing the way we relate to life's circumstances rather than endlessly searching for the one perfect choice.‘Whatever you do is beautiful’Sadhguru's perspective challenges the common tendency to view certain life paths as inherently better than others. A successful career, marriage or relationship does not automatically guarantee happiness, just as losing a job, getting divorced or remaining unmarried does not automatically make life miserable. The issue, according to Sadhguru, is the tendency to turn “everything” into misery.His happiness habit is therefore simple but demanding: learn how to walk through life joyfully, regardless of whether circumstances unfold exactly as planned. As he put it, if a person knows how to do that, “whatever you do is beautiful.”
